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Who pays for your education?

January 18, 2021 by Leigh Kelly

This can be a hotly debated topic. Is it you personally or should your employer pay for it?  Well, I guess it boils down to this – whose practicing certificate is it? Yours or your employers? 

So, what is your employer’s role around your practicing certificate?

Well, they need to make sure it is current and renewed each year.  The employer also has to check that the medical practitioner, physiotherapist or occupation therapist or any other allied health professional has a current practicing certificate too, not just yours.  Is your employer responsible for paying for the allied health professional’s educations?  No, they aren’t. The individual is responsible for ensuring they keep up to date with their education hours. 

So, the question is, does an allied health professional get anything more than you do to be able to come in and attend to residents or clients.  They get remunerated for it just like you. While it may not be a weekly wage, their services are still paid for by your employer, but your employer does not pay for them to go to educational updates.

So that comes down to you as a RN or EN. Who should pay for your education – you or your employer? I guess this is a question you have to ask yourself. Do you give anything more to your employer than an allied health professional? You may argue you do, but you see, your employer’s ability to provide the service is dependent not only on you, but also the caregivers and the allied health professions they contract in to service their clients or residents.

Why am I bringing this up again? Well, many RNs and ENs have an expectation that their employer will pay for their education hours, and if they won’t, they don’t attend. Now if your employer does pay for you to attend education updates in the form of paid days off, course fees etc, be grateful because they don’t have to. If you don’t have a current practicing certificate because your education hours are insufficient, that is your issue – you can’t practice.

So why then am I discussing this? Well, in some cases there is not much loyalty or gratitude paid to a generous employer. Loyalty is not something high on the values of some people. Money is and some people will think nothing of jumping ship to a get a higher paid position rather than give back to a generous employer. Your employer should expect something in return for being generous and giving you a day off and paying for your education. Do you give back to them or is your expectation that it is their responsibility to keep you employed when tomorrow you could hand in your notice and not look back.

When you next see an educational session you would like to attend, think first of how you can contribute to paying for it. Maybe you discuss a partnership with your employer? Maybe you take some annual leave or lieu days to attend so they are not paying both your wages and for someone to replace you. If they do want to pay for your fee to attend and your wages, then be grateful and show them some loyalty. Give back to them and be considerate to your employer. Work together because in the end, you are the one that keeps the knowledge you attain. Sure, your employer will benefit while you are there but if you leave, you walk out with that knowledge.  It is not left behind.

Now I am not saying which is right. I have been the recipient of having an employer pay for courses for me for which I was very grateful, but I have also been an employer who had to look at the budget to see if staff could be paid for to do course and this can be quite a dilemma. So spare a thought for your employer who is trying to balance the books and if they graciously pay for you to do training, be grateful and give back to them with your loyalty.

Food for thought isn’t it?

Filed Under: Training Tagged With: education, medical practitioner, occupational therapist, physiotherapist, practicing certificate

The power of giving back

December 16, 2020 by Leigh Kelly

Last month I talked about being grateful for what we have. This month I am going to talk about the power of giving back or paying it forward.

So what has sparked this for me to want to write about it? Well last month I advertised on Face Book the library that is now available for professional development educations hours. One response came back with “About time nurses had protected education time and that it was paid for” 

Now I didn’t respond to it because I do not feel we need to get into a tit for tat, right wrong sort of debate in a public forum like Face Book as there are too many negative posts on there any way. 

However, my question is “Whose responsibility is your practicing certificate?” It is not the DHB or your employers. It is yours. If you don’t keep up with your professional development and fail the competencies for your practicing certificate, do you really think the DHB or your employer is going to enable you to keep working  No! They will look to replace you tomorrow. 

Do not think you are so precious and indispensable. Who every employs you owes you nothing? You owe it to yourself and your patients/residents/clients to keep up to date with current information AND pay for it yourself. You can look at it as paying it forward: being grateful that you have work because a lot of people don’t. Think more about what you can contribute rather than what you can take. What has happened to our community?  Is it no longer cool to give back?

This year, I have purchased for my grandchildren so cards Acts of Kindness or AOK.  These cards are about encouraging people to be kind. The first card I picked up said “Children love toys under the tree. Buy something for someone not as lucky as me.”  The next card I pulled was “Candy canes are a Christmas treat. Leave some for strangers now that would be neat.” The third care said “Ring someone for no reason at all. Tell them you love them on that call.”

Now it struck me that if we could foster some of this kindness in our workplace, then what a great place it would be. Instead of your employer thanking you, why don’t you thank them for a change.  Instead of your employer paying for you to work and train, why don’t you pay for your own training to thank your employer for giving you the opportunity to work. 

I know it is easy to think your employer has an infinite amount of money and can pay to keep you in work. The reality is they do not have a pot of gold available to pay for everything they would like. I am sure they would like to pay you more. I’m sure they would love to be able to give all the staff you need to make your job easier. I’m sure they would love to be able to pay for unlimited training to keep your skills up. But they don’t. 

Having a job is a privilege not a right.  Show some gratitude towards your employer and do something for them this Christmas. Show them you appreciate them: that they do not only help you put food on the table and roof over the head of your family. That you appreciate them giving you the opportunity to feel worthwhile and valued; that they give you a reason to get out of bed in the morning. That they give you a reason to smile each day and care.

Remember giving back doesn’t have to cost a lot of money.  It is the little things that count. 2020 has been a hard year for everyone so why not let’s make 2121 a year of giving and forgiving.  Of loving and appreciating everyone around you. Of spreading love, not gossip and falsehoods. 

May your Christmas be one of joy and giving. Of loving and laughter. Of joy and thankfulness. Till next year. Merry Christmas. 

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: kindness, practicing certificate, professional development, training

Living in a grateful world

November 9, 2020 by Leigh Kelly

As we’ve recently gone through a general election and two referendums, it is interesting to see the changes that are happening in the country. We certainly are getting more diversity in parliament which reflects the nature of New Zealand’s population so it will be interesting to see what happens in the future. While Labour and the Greens have worked out a deal, one cannot help but think that because Labour has a majority, how much influence the Greens will have. I guess we just have to wait and see what transpires over the next 3 years. 

As far as the End of life choice bill referendums is concerned, I wonder how many people actually like the idea of being able to make a choice but do not fully understand what it is for the health professionals who have to apply this law. While I believe the actual number of people who chose this option, when it comes to actually making a choice, few people will take it up. However, my thoughts go to the health professionals who have devoted their career to saving lives, to be put in a position of now having to actively facilitate a person’s death. 

As far as the Cannabis referendum went, I wonder that by not voting for Cannibas reform what the effects of this will be? I guess it’s just another wait and see isn’t it.

However, one thing I am grateful that for is that we truly live in a democracy where we have sensible and sane leaders at the top. When we look at the debacle that has been going on in the US, I am so pleased that we do not have any of that nonsense here.  I find it so amazing that people can actually vote for someone like Donald Trump who is so full of his own importance, makes up lies, contradicts himself, and tweets so many untruths that people actually revere him. It makes me wonder at the psyche of some people. I’m sure the fireworks are not over there yet. He’s like a screaming child, screaming and stamping his feet because he has been told to do something. 

So today, I am writing a list of what I am grateful for

  • That we truly live in a democracy where all people can have their say without violence
  • That on the most part, our politicians are honest
  • That we have a really stable country
  • That sense prevailed and we opted for short term pain for long term gain with Covid-19
  • Majority of New Zealanders are sensible and consider others
  • That we all have freedom

What are you grateful for and what are the benefits of being grateful:

Now we are not perfect by any means, but who is and what is perfect anyway.  However, if we compare ourselves with other countries, we are pretty lucky.  I can see why we are so attractive for people to want to live here.  So if you don’t think being grateful has a positive effect on you and your health, then listen to the research on this in this clip:

Filed Under: Elder Care Tagged With: grateful, gratitude, happiness, New Zealand, optimism

Improving the wellbeing of older people

October 14, 2020 by Leigh Kelly

Those of you who did the Assessment Clinical Update in 2018 and 2019 will remember Dr Jed Montayre. He is now based in West Sydney University and has started an interesting programme to begin next year. It is a Masters in Aging – wellbeing and sustainability. Here is an article on it. He says ageing is not just about decline.

This is great to see as being in this age group and having sustained a fractured humerus 2 years ago and fractured pelvis this year, it is wonderful to see work going into how to sustain older people as they age. While I admit, I may be in the minority still working, more and more people are working past the age of 65. In fact, it’s not uncommon for people to work till they are 70 and beyond. While I move around in the community of older people, let me tell you, they are a vibrant lot of people and while they may not be actively working paid employment, they are very active in the community and in living. There are exercise, education and theatre groups, just to mention a few things that I know of. 

Many are involved in travel and are always flitting overseas till Covid – 19 hit so now the are zooming around New Zealand.

There have been many studies of mixing young children with older adults around the world to. I am not aware of any in New Zealand, but it would be something well worth looking at. Some have a bit more than children visiting aged care facilities and villages to do an item but something ongoing where they are intricately involved with the older people. 

On Vibe Channel on Thursday nights, they have been televising some experiments in the UK. One was this one in Bristol which ran for 6 weeks and the second study was one held for 3 months in Lark Hill Retirement Village in Nottingham 2018. Watch here. After the show there was an interview with one of the older people and the 4 year old she partnered with. Watch here.

Now the important thing for me here is the testing that was done throughout the study. The second study in Nottingham, had older people from the age of 70 to 103. The change in the older people during this time was remarkable. They were happier, stronger, more confident and more vibrant people. We must never forget that people can be socially isolated even when surrounded by people. How hard it must be to be left with only your memories to reflect on, which often focuses on the losses rather than the good things that happened in life.   

A similar study was conducted in Australia in 2019.  Just see the results of this. Wouldn’t it be amazing if such programmes are run in New Zealand ongoing?  How much more enriched older people lives would be if they had something to look forward to each day and what a rewarding experience it is for the children, many of them who do not have grandparents living close to them. We must not forget that many people have family living away from their parent be it overseas or in other parts of the country.  Some people do not have family either so we must think “how can we make their lives better” and set a path for this to happen. 

So, when planning an activity programme in your facility, look at how you can introduce an intergenerational programme for you residents by partnering with a day care in your area. Many children do not have grandparents living locally, as I said, so they could really benefit from buddying up with an older person. Just think of the wonderful memories that can be created for both the children and the older person which can all be recorded to look back on. For the child, it can be a memory to show their own children when they get older. For the older person, it can be a memory for the absent families to treasure. What better project to work towards after the lockdown that we have all experienced? It would truly be a win/win for all.

Filed Under: Elder Care Tagged With: wellbeing of older people

Managing stress in a stressful environment

September 2, 2020 by Leigh Kelly

This month I want to discuss self-care. The reason here, is the few people I have spoken to over the last month, tell me how constantly busy they are.  I know I put a TED talk in last month about triaging your crazy busy life, but I thought I would address it again about how to keep yourself safe and as stress free as possible. You might like to take another look at the TED Talk.

Stress is something we can’t get away from, but it is how we manage the stress we are under that is important. Telling yourself how busy you are, is only going to make yourself more stressed and ultimately you get less done.  So, think about how important your self-talk is. I had an interesting talk with my grandson recently about fear.  He was to attend a new swimming class and he said to me “I am scared, and I have a headache and a funny tummy”. When I asked him why, he told me because it was new, and he didn’t know anyone in his class. So, what did we talk about?

Firstly, it is natural to be fearful when you are to attend something new, but once you get there and start the swimming, you will find the headache and the funny tummy, will go away. Of course, this is what happened. The fear went away, the tummy settled down and he got into the swimming.

What is interesting though, he is now using the skills we talked about to help coach his mates through fear. I witnessed him encouraging a mate, who could not swim, to use a surfboard in the pond on our property. He is turning out to be a wonderful, patient teacher. Very encouraging and instilling trust with his colleagues. What a wonderful skill for an 8 year old to have. His teachers tell us he is doing this to help others at school to. This of course will stand him in great stead throughout his life and what’s more, he is now seeing the positive results from his mates with their confidence soaring.

Now a big part of your job is to keep the staff together. Often you may feel there is no one there for you. It can be a very lonely place at the top because you cannot afford to fall apart. Boy do I know that. In 1989, I was the charge nurse of a long-term care ward in the public sector. This was when all long-term care was taken out of the public system. Our ward was the last to close and I chose redundancy as my option. Others on my ward were also being made redundant. Our ward was the holding pen so to speak for them. It was a hard time and I couldn’t afford to fall apart. I had to keep everyone together. I know how important and hard it is and how alone you sometimes feel. So how can you take care of yourself, while keeping the team together? 

I believe the first thing to do in selfcare is to not be hard on yourself if you don’t get everything done you wanted to do. Take a breath. Write a list.  Now ideally prioritise the list in order of importance if you can but that in itself can increase your stress.  It just takes more ‘brain time’ in an already overloaded brain and it may be just too much. So, just get them out of you head onto paper and tick them off when completed. What doesn’t get done today, can wait till tomorrow.

Don’t take your frustration out on your staff or loved ones. They are relying on you to keep everything functioning. Hard and all as it is, don’t let them fall apart because you are falling apart. Take a breath and tell yourself you can do this, and you will get through it. It’s amazing what happens when you say you can rather than you can’t.

Take care of yourself. Get a massage, go for a relaxing walk, meet up with friends in the best way you can (you can do this electronically just as well)  Put some oils in an infuser, listen to some music or learn meditation or mindfulness. These are amazing tools for quieting your very busy mind. If you do not know how to meditate, just find a guided meditation on you tube, sit or lie down and relax. Take a few deep breaths and just listen to the meditation, preferably via headphones and see how it subtly changes the way you feel. 

I guess finally you should always have hope. When you have hope, then life has some meaning, so don’t lose hope. This current state will pass, and you can then look back with pride, so take care of yourself now. If you are worried about how to manage your stress, there are some great tips here.

Filed Under: Management Tagged With: Managing stress, selfcare, stress, stressful environment

A new understanding and appreciation of aged care workers has emerged.

August 4, 2020 by Leigh Kelly

One of the few good things that have come out of Covid – 19 is there is a new appreciation for the wonderful work done by workers in the aged care sector.  It is so heartening to see you all now appreciated rather than criticized and condemned.  You all did an amazing job keeping both residents and you safe over this time and it is to be commended.

I have to say I was very impressed with the staff of Rosewood on how they conducted themselves and the wonderfully balanced programme on SUNDAY that was aired on Sunday night.  It showed the true side of those of you who own and work in Aged Care.  The impact that Covid had on everyone was still very raw and the true feelings of all of you who do this wonderful job of taking care of the frail, elderly and disabled, really shone through.

Now people like me know of your true worth. Yeah, all of us don’t get it right all of the time but we are only human. We do make mistakes and sometimes we just cannot meet the expectations of those close to the person in care. But you all do your best and your best shone through on Sunday night. For those who didn’t see Inside Rosewood watch here.

On top of this, those essential workers, yes you, are being commended in so many way.  There is a major call for all essential workers to be paid a living wage. While the Age Care sector is fortunate enough to be receiving a living wage, many others are not but the push is strong for others to receive what you do. Read this.

While the living wage is the being touted these days, we must not forget  the reason we celebrate Labour Day at the end of October each year.  It is in recognition of the 8 hour day being implemented. This came about in 1840 when Samuel Parnell, a carpenter, won and 8 hour working day. In 1890 in recognition of this, Labour Day was commemorated for the first time and New Zealander became known as a ‘workers paradise’. Other countries followed suite and celebrate Labour Day each year now to. 

Now most of us just think it is another day off, except for an essential worker like yourselves but I think we have to remember that many countries still do not have such a luxury. I have to say, the idea of a 8 hour working day is no longer treasured as a right of everyone in New Zealand or many others countries who celebrate Labour Day.  Many people work more than a 8 hour day regularly, so it seems to have gone by the wayside but it doesn’t hurt us to remember how hard fought this was for the worker.  

However, we mustn’t forget our forefathers who so valiantly strived for this to happen. While I understand that without a living wage, this is more difficult for some people, as I mentioned earlier, treasure the rights you have in New Zealand.  The right to a fair wage – a living wage. But a living wage does come at a cost. The business or organisation you work for has to have the income to provide a living wage. While many do, others do not and this cost has to be passed on to the consumer. As a result, some things you purchase will have to cost more as a result.

I also think we have to be grateful for the welfare system we have here to.  While it is sometimes open to abuse, the reason it was implemented in the first place was for a hand up when times are hard not a right to not work and pay your way.  In 1935, the Labour Government led by Michael Joseph Savage, not only set up the first social security system in the world they also set in motion free education, a salaried medical service, a free public hospital system, adequate standards of housing, a basic minimum wage and full employment to name a few.  While we may not enjoy all of these luxuries, many of them are still in place in some form today. 

So, my message here today, is do not take for granted what we do have in New Zealand. We have led the world in many things including the first country to register nurses, the first country to have a social security system, the first country to give women the vote, the first country to have a Treaty with the first settlers of the land and one of the first to be Covid free plus many more firsts.  They have all been hard fought for though as I said.

The money to prop up the luxuries we enjoy does not come about by merely printing more money. The money has to be earned and we all have to pay our share to keep affording these services when we need them. Be grateful you have a living wage and you pay taxes because it is the major way the government raises money. Pay your taxes gratefully and be thankful you are contributing to the lifestyle of all of us. Don’t complain about taxes.  Don’t avoid paying taxes. It is not the government taking from you. It is actually the government being able to give back to you. Just remember, all the money that has been spent over Covid 19 has to be recovered somehow to keep New Zealand functioning. There is, unfortunately, no bottomless pit. Read more on the evolution of our welfare system.

Filed Under: Elder Care Tagged With: aged care sector, Labour Day, work in Aged Care

A new era of training is emerging

July 15, 2020 by Leigh Kelly

Covid-19 has forced many people to embrace other methods of training and communicating. The face to face classroom is no longer the only way to learn. Many businesses are now resetting their methods of training as we have seen with the universities. However, some people are resistant to change and want to keep the status quo. It is a bit like the swing away from cheques to online or mobile phone banking. Some just will not do it. 

However we all know that now some banks are no longer accepting cheques and when we do receive a cheque it is not an easy option to bank it. Is training going to go the same way? I believe it will and whether we like it or not, it is the way of the future.

Zoom meetings and training have mushroomed over recent months, with many people using zoom in a variety of ways to communicate, be it for training, running meetings or for catch ups with families and friends. 

So, what are the advantages of online training as opposed to face to face training?

  • Can be done anywhere anytime
  • All learners get the same information
  • No travel required
  • Annual leave is left untouched
  • Staff don’t need to be replaced to let one staff member off to attend training
  • Easier to get multiple members of staff trained at the same time

So, what are the disadvantages online training

  • Option for discussion is reduced but not impossible
  • Unable to network with people from other facilities
  • Less cost effective as may only send one person instead of many
  • Cost of travel, time off and replacement of staff to attend

The feedback we got from the online learners at the clinical update has been very positive. Being able to attend Online Real Time and the Recorded options for the Clinical Update ticked all the advantages listed. I have found also that people using Care Training Online get positive result. I know it takes a shift in mind set to go online as opposed to face to face learning. We all don’t like change that much as I said, but once we get past that block it is easy. I remember when I first started using a projector for training. It really scared me but now it is dead easy and I wouldn’t be without it. When I started using Zoom I messed it up but now I really like it. We just have to practice, be bold and try something new.

So, give online a go. With some encouragement from you for your staff, it could save you not only a lot of time but also a lot of money too. On top of that that  your residents will get great care. What a bonus.

Filed Under: Training Tagged With: online training, training

How much do you value your freedom?

June 2, 2020 by Leigh Kelly

We have all had a taste of what it is like not to be able to do what we want when we want and for many it took a bit of getting used to. Freedom is something that we take for granted in New Zealand. It’s something that is not so readily available for many other countries so having a taste of being restricted is not such a bad thing for us. Have you ever wonder what is freedom to you?

I know for myself I had never thought about not being able to hop in the car and go wherever I wanted. I have been driving since I was 15 so it is part of who I am.  Having to stay home in my own little haven, was at times a bit challenging but I learnt other ways to keep in contact with my friends and family.  I no longer take others for granted and I now will pick up the phone to talk to my friends more. While I do spend a considerable amount of time on the phone talking to owners and managers of facilities and organisations about Care Training Online, I have been a bit less forthcoming on picking up the phone to call others or find other ways to connect with friends and family. 

So, over this time, I have joined House Party which is a face to face social networking AP. It is a great way to talk to a group of people. I now can talk regularly to my sisters together, so I don’t have to make individual calls – and we can see each other too.

I have learnt to use Zoom which is another networking tool used by many businesses to keep in contact with clients and staff who work remotely or at home. I use it for business, for Rotary and for other networking groups.  Being able to see people face to face you get all the facial expression that are missed by phone or email really enhances communication.

I have also learnt to use Messenger for calls and for video groups.  This is a way I keep in contact with another group of people.  And of course, there is also Facetime. So many options to choose from. So being in lockdown has taught me to find other more effective ways to communicate.  I have mentioned some of these in this newsletter  but check our this video on ways people kept in communication with others during lockdown.

I’ve heard that many facilities were able to use some of these mediums to keep the families connected with their loved ones. This is what is so amazing about the people who choose to work in residential care be it with the elderly or disability sector; so many of you go beyond the call of duty to make sure your residents and their families are kept up to date with their loved ones and this is in addition to your normal workload. This is what caring is all about.

Now while many of you have felt overloaded and underappreciated, certainly in the past, I do hope you are not saying that now. The whole country and families now see the value you add to their lives and their loved ones. If you troll through Facebook, there are many positive comments about how well you all did to keep everyone safe not to mention the wonderful photos and videos you  posted of your team at work making people happy. 

Sure, there was some negative comments, but you cannot take those one board. There are always people who keep their glasses half empty. Even though man of us learnt to focus on the negative rather than the positive in our school system, it is not too hard to change the way you think. How many of you focused on the red crosses in our tests – the incorrect answer, rather than the blue ticks that were correct. You have to shift away from that.  It serves no purpose for you or anyone else.

So negative comments or red crosses are actually learning experiences. That is all. Just like failing in anything, it is an opportunity to do better or do something different. Why don’t you count the number of learning experiences you had each day, rather than the number of things you did wrong or got wrong.

So today my message is this. Everything you do in life is good – be it correct or incorrect in the eyes of others because each you learn from what you do.  You keep repeating what you do well and get congratulated for and you stop repeating what was done incorrectly. Both have their rewards. It’s just the way you look at it. If you listen to this video about turning failure into success, the message is very clear – there is no such thing is failure but you do need to be your authentic self.  

Filed Under: Self Care Tagged With: freedom, Messenger for calls, Zoom

On to the next phase of recovery

May 7, 2020 by Leigh Kelly

This last month has certainly tested us all. Firstly, I would like to send my sincere condolences to Rosewood and St Margarets Hospital for the loss of residents’ due to Covid-19. The situation unfolded before you through no fault of your own and I am sure the whole of New Zealand’s thoughts has been with you over this time. I do hope, that with a shift to Level 3 and hopefully soon to Level 2, you will feel some sense of normality, what ever normality is for you. It would not have been an easy job looking after older people, especially those with dementia, who would not doubt have developed a delirium. Couple this with them not being able to understand why you are all gowned up. It must have been terrifying for them – and you as well.

While we will never forget this time, when we look back in 6 months, it will be seen in a different light and you will be congratulating yourselves on how you all got through it. I think the greatest testament to the whole aged care industry is that so many of you kept the virus out of your facilities.  WELL DONE.  Your systems and processes are working.

So, in order to move forward, we have to start looking for ways in which to do this. One of the recognized ways is gratitude. What can you be grateful for over this time? What have you learned from it?  What wonderful things happened to you as a result? Did you find an inner strength you didn’t know you had?  Did your family come to the fore and show you the true strength of unity? Is all the work you put into your family coming back to show you what a wonderful job you have done?  Have there been some people who have surprised you with the support you have been given?  What extra ordinary things have arisen to give you hope and be grateful for.

It is so easy to focus on the terrible things that happen to us and around us, yet there will more good things than you realise. Complaining about your our boss, colleagues, children, partner or the governing bodies serves no purpose.  We should be looking at more positive things in life, because believe you me, there are many positive things in life to be grateful for. Did you know the average person spends 10 hours a month complaining!  What a waste of energy.  Just think about what you could do that was more beneficial to you or others with those 10 hours. Don’t believe me? Well check out his article.

Pop Psychology really has so many worthwhile benefits. When you stop complaining, you find you no longer need the buzz that adrenalin gives you to get all fired up. You channel your energy in much more worthwhile directions and the surprising thing once you start this, you get to like people. They no longer fire you up in a negative way.  I have heard of instances when couples were on the verge of divorce but when they stopped complaining or griping about each other, they fell in love with each other again.  So, you see when you stop complaining, you are more at peace inside and with the world around you. It is very easy to feed this addiction, because that is what it is. We often unwittingly get drawn into the a gripe session – it is like a magnet and we jump on the bandwagon. Social media is a breeding ground for gripers. Don’t be tempted to get drawn into it so you can feel vindicated. Does a gripe session gain anything? How much satisfaction does it give you and how long does the satisfaction last?  So, over the next month, stop griping about people, work, the effect Covid-19 or anything else that has had a negative effect on or around you, and think and talk about the great things that have come out of it. It will amaze you when you shift away from complaining tbeing grateful how many positives you will see from this time.

Human kindness is another important factor at this time.  Being kind to others is another positive stream to lowering your stress levels. Being kind to others doesn’t cost you anything but it does help you build up your bank of happiness which makes you feel good.

So how does this work?  Well, being kind boosts oxytocin which is the love hormone.  It also releases dopamine which is a chemical messenger which gives you a high and makes you feel good. It also releases serotonin which are neurotransmitters that regulates your mood. So, the more you are kind, the more you build up you bank of happiness. Don’t believe me? Well take a look at this.

So, what’s my message this month?  Yes, its been a hard month for everyone but you have come through it.  Be grateful you still have a job, colleagues, a purpose in life, something to get up for in the morning and you are not alone.  Be grateful we have a compassionate leader that has been thinking of you at this time regardless of your political views.  Be grateful that most of your residents didn’t get Covid-19 thanks to the care they received from you.  And finally, be kind to each other and use your energy for good. Remember, what can you do with the extra 10 hours a month you gain by not griping? 

Food for thought.

Filed Under: Elder Care

What will we learn from this time in history?

April 16, 2020 by Leigh Kelly

There have and always will be defining moments in our lives as there has been throughout history.  Like after the second world war, and I am old enough to remember this time, there was a huge period of growth. Things were not the same for anyone.  Many families were left without their bread winner and mothers and fathers without their sons but through all this, the world survive and prospered through this time with a huge amount of growth and prosperity. 

It was such a productive time.  New jobs emerged, new ideas grew, and life developed a new normal.  But like in any war or catastrophe, we found out the good in people in the community.  People started taking care of each other. They started valuing their children and families. They started talking to each other and smiling at people they didn’t know or waving out to a stranger. They were taking the time to see what is around. They treasured their freedom, something that is not a given in so many places around the world. They got to appreciate each other. Just like after the Canterbury earthquakes, people gathered together, thought about each other more and got in and helped.

The same is going to happen now. Many people will start to think about their lives, what it means and how can they make changes. Many will realise they have been chasing their tails, going around in circles, doing a job they don’t like and will be looking for a change.  People are now starting to appreciate and acknowledge others with a smile and eye contact.  Something that had been lost.

However, that will not be the case for your industry. While you are lucky to have ongoing guaranteed employment and income something denied so many at present, I am hearing the stress of the managers.  I only handful of people last week, basically to see how they are going. Everyone is so busy, and unlike those who are having the time to sit and reflect, play with their children, and watch all those TV programmes they have longed to watch, it is not a luxury you have. You still have the residents, their families and colleagues to think about not to mention your own families and keeping yourself safe and healthy.  But you do have an income. 

I wish there was a way in which I could help you, but I can’t. All I can say is I take my hat off to you and salute you. You are the backbone and stability that all those in your care so appreciate.  It is, at times, backbreaking but it is also, at times, joyous and rewarding. The country is very lucky to have you all and with so many people now being out of work, it may well be that people now look for a career change and consider becoming a support worker or caregiver. 

My thoughts are with you. Stay safe. Stay well and in all of this do take care of yourself as well as others. You do matter.

I would like to finish with this article written by a very respected New Zealander – Mike Hutchison.  He has some very wise words here. “Let’s not say we are too small. Let’s be the mouse that roars”.  Opportunities await for the brave and the bold. 

Filed Under: Self Care

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